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<h3>Understanding How Your Mind Absorbs Negativity</h3>Have you ever felt like you are walking around with that underlying feeling of anxiety, where just one extra tiny problem might push you completely over the edge? You aren’t alone. That feeling of being "up to here" with everything is incredibly common.In Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, I use a powerful metaphor to explain how your brain handles pressure: "The Stress Bucket." It’s a simple visual that explains why we sometimes feel overwhelmed and, more importantly, how using hypnosis, it can be fixed.&nbsp;How the Bucket FillsImagine you have an internal bucket. Throughout your day, stressors drip into it. Some are real-time events: a demanding email from your boss, being stuck in traffic, or an unexpected bill. These are normal parts of life.However, the fastest way to fill this bucket isn't with reality; it's with our thoughts.Our minds are masters of time travel, but rarely in a helpful way. We engage in negative forecasting—constantly worrying about the future with endless "what if" scenarios. Simultaneously, we practice negative reflection—dwelling on the past, replaying old arguments, or agonising over mistakes we can't change.Every time you negatively forecast the future or negatively reflect on the past, you pour a large jug of water into your stress bucket.<figure id="figure-km5x0k90bamk6wzma3"><img id="km5x0k90bamk6wzma3" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/39VSnxrpYqPKMp87rL8LN4eXPJh0Swiowj4pYEYKMEzbU2e0ZDYBu3BOenv44QJm.png" alt="a stress bucket is a metaphor used in solution focused hypnotherapy" title="a stress bucket is a metaphor used in solution focused hypnotherapy" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 65%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="The Metaphoric " data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="65%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/39VSnxrpYqPKMp87rL8LN4eXPJh0Swiowj4pYEYKMEzbU2e0ZDYBu3BOenv44QJm.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 65%;"><figcaption class="body-normal text-gray-500 mt-2">The Metaphoric "Stress Bucket"</figcaption></figure>Imagination vs. Reality: The Brain’s TrickHere is the crucial part to understand: your primitive, emotional brain cannot differentiate between imagination and reality.If you sit on your sofa and vividly imagine a confrontation with a colleague tomorrow, your brain responds as if that confrontation is happening right now. It releases the exact same stress hormones—cortisol and adrenaline—into your system. You are intellectually aware you are safe on your sofa, but your neurochemistry thinks you are in a fight.By constantly imagining negative outcomes, you are filling your stress bucket with disasters that haven't happened, and likely never will. When the bucket inevitably overflows, we experience anxiety, irritability, anger, tearfulness, or brain fog. Life feels unmanageable because we have no capacity left to deal with it.How Hypnosis Helps Empty the BucketWe naturally empty our stress buckets during REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep—our dream state. It’s nature’s way of processing the day's emotional data. But when we are overloaded with stress, our sleep patterns are disrupted, and the bucket stays dangerously full.This is where Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is transformative. Hypnosis, or "trance," mimics that vital REM state.Hypnosis doesn't erase memories or problems. Instead, it helps your mind process the accumulated stress and "strip the emotion" from the events stored in your bucket. It takes a loud, screaming worry and turns it into a quiet, manageable thought. The memory remains, but the intense emotional charge that was causing the overflow is gone.When the emotional charge is removed, you gain perspective. The bucket empties, and suddenly, life feels manageable again.<figure id="figure-xwr3ggtqcmk6x35il"><img id="xwr3ggtqcmk6x35il" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/17mTD2rXuYG2QUKp9CjinaA295Z9jA558MMnYMBpm8wIemwvnq6K0yyWBbu8wANe.png" alt="woman looking calm relaxed and in control with empty stress bucket" title="woman looking calm relaxed and in control with empty stress bucket" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 40% 45%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="Calm, Relaxed and In Control " data-positionx="40%" data-positiony="45%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/17mTD2rXuYG2QUKp9CjinaA295Z9jA558MMnYMBpm8wIemwvnq6K0yyWBbu8wANe.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 40% 45%;"><figcaption class="body-normal text-gray-500 mt-2">Calm, Relaxed and In Control</figcaption></figure>Time to Empty Your BucketYou don’t have to live life constantly teetering on the edge of an overflow. You can retrain your brain to focus on the positive present rather than the fearful future.If you are ready to regain control, improve your sleep, and "empty your bucket," I am here to help you get started.Contact Helen at <a data-mce-href="https://thenewyouhypnosis.co.uk/" href="https://thenewyouhypnosis.co.uk/">The New You Hypnosis </a>based in <a data-mce-href="https://thenewyouhypnosis.co.uk/solution-focused-hypnotherapy" href="https://thenewyouhypnosis.co.uk/solution-focused-hypnotherapy" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">Barnsley, South Yorkshire</a>. I offer tailored sessions both face-to-face and online to suit your schedule. Let’s work together to find the new, calmer you.

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